Saturday, December 20, 2008

"Update"

I suppose the phrase, "what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger" must be true.  So, here's my  update.  My hands are still in pretty bad shape. I did have cortisone injections in both thumb joints 4 days ago. I was expecting a miracle overnight, but apparently it takes time for the cortisone to kick in.  I do not have relief yet, but I pray that it is coming.  Both hands are still in braces so I am having to have alot of help in the house lifting and holding Elijah Brooks. Honestly, I never realized how much a person needs their thumbs!! It's so hard, but God is faithful and I trust His promises to give me strength..., His strength.   I was very upset last week and cried daily, but now I am just learning how to manage. I am learning  how to change a diaper without using my thumbs and am learning how to nurse my child with my hands in braces. I am learning how to pick him  up from his crib using my forearms rather than my hands.  It's not easy, but where there's a will, there's a way.  People think I am crazy for still trying to nurse him, but I am determined not to let my situation rob me of that wonderful joy.   Jay has been my rock. He comes home from work daily to help me. He has given me so much courage to keep trying to take care of my baby the very best way that I know how to..., even if it's alittle different than how I wanted to. Well, what do you do when your "rock" gets sick??  You call your mother in-law!!!   Thursday night, Jay and I were getting ready for bed and we realized that every week for 6 weeks, someone in our family has been out of commission.  We were kind of  laughing about it (notice I said, "kind of"),  until Jay awoke throwing up!!  Yep, he had the full-blown stomach flu!  So, one may ask, "how did you take care of your baby and your sick husband with your hands in braces while trying to keep your distance from a very contagious virus"?  The answer yet again, "you call your mother in-law"!!   I called Jay's parents at 3:45 in the  morning and told them that I was in desperate need of help.  They got in the car and drove 4 hours to  help me.  They have been so wonderful.  I honestly do not know what I would have done had I not had help in the house. I haven't seen Jay this sick in a very long time.  Hopefully, he is turning a corner today. 
I just keep reminding myself that God said there would be trouble in this world, but He has promised not to give us more than we can handle.  None of these things would be that difficult in and of themselves. It's just the compounding effect of the past 6 weeks. However, I thank God daily that we have our health and each other.  All of these minor inconveniences are temporary and they will go away.  It helps so much to take a step back and get things back in proper perspective.  Our marriage is stronger than it ever has been and we have a beautiful,  healthy baby boy.  As Jay says, "it's all good"! 

4 comments:

Mary Bernard said...

Oh, sweet friend. You have a fabulous attitude. I don't think I would be holding up as well as y'all are.

I'll be praying for you. If you want to talk, cry, or whatever, just call.

Love you,
M

Erin said...

Erin, we are praying for you guys as is all of Good Shepherd! Hang in there! Love you guys!

-Erin

Unknown said...

Hey Erin. It is amazing what we can do when there's no other choice! I pray that you will be strengthened and healed! And for a different, and light note on the whole thing, I was thinking that it has been said the thing that makes us a higher than the animals is opposible thumbs... but just remember what the great women in "Steel Magnolias" said... "The only thing that separates us from the animals is our ability to accesorize." So, ACCESORIZE BABY!!
Ruth Carleton

Brittny said...

I don't know of a single mom who hasn't had problems with their wrists or thumbs at some point after having a baby, so welcome to the "injured mom club!" It's not fun, but just find peace in knowing you are not alone. You do find ways to pick up your child and care for them to avoid pain, but like you said, you do what you have to do. I couldn't even use my forearms at one point and had to use my shoulders. Thankfully that worked out well b/c I'm not sure where you go from there???? Hang in there and things will get better! And good for you for still nursing. I think holding a bottle would hurt more, but that's just me. I'll be praying that things get better and know that this is just a phase. Life with kids is made up of one phase after another. Thankfully they don't all involve wearing braces and getting shots! Remember, God never gives you more than you can handle. You will survive and come out stronger in the end! Love you!